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Featured this Month:

From the Desk of Father Rubey
one day ago by Father Ruby
In one of the recent LOSS support groups participants found themselves talking about the impact of stigma they experienced in the wake of their loved one’s deaths. Our groups are intended to be a safe place for survivors to meet others and talk about any struggles they are experiencing. There are many things that make suicide more painful and disorienting for those left behind, and one of those things is the experience of stigma.
Private Grief Stories
one day ago by Private Grief Stories
On 9/11/17 I was watching speeches and ceremony regarding America’s evolving grief in the wake of its huge loss of life on 9/11/01. The anniversary events were beautifully intentional, formal and moving. I thought about Emily Dickenson’s verse: “After great pain, a formal feeling comes.” And I couldn’t help but think about our LOSS families. Is it odd that I might connect those experiencing the devastation of suicide loss with this grand scale, national observation of lost lives and collective meaning?

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Is My Child Grieving?
Monday, February 01, 2016 by Cynthia Waderlow MSE, LCSW
I often talk with new LOSS members who are parents with children at home. They are clearly reaching out for direction and support, still shell-shocked perhaps months later, but responding to a sense that they need to make sure their kids are okay. I may hear, “She doesn’t seem to be grieving. How can I tell?” These parents have no problem recognizing their own grief. Clearly, attending to each day is an effort. They struggle with emotional absence where their children are concerned. They are able to talk about the new imbalance in their physical and emotional systems. They describe “waves” of grief, in which they feel overwhelmed with grief and sadness. Their children and teens, on the other hand, appear to have shown only initial sadness, but life still engages them. They play video games, watch TV, do homework, see friends, yet the parent senses that their child has also been changed by the loss. So parents wonder if it is normal when their child appears unchanged.
From the Desk of Debbie Major
Monday, February 01, 2016 by Deborah R. Major, PhD, LCSW
From time to time I am invited to write for this column, most often when Father Rubey is away.  He has written this column every month for many years, and when I attend LOSS groups, often a group member will comment on how something they read in Father’s “From the desk of” column seemed to speak directly to their experience that week.  So it’s always a challenge to write here, knowing that readers are expecting words of wisdom and inspiration.  If you are reading this page, I know that you have either lost a loved one to suicide, or you are trying to help someone who has.  Our readership includes individuals and families that have lost a loved one quite recently, as well as those whose loss is many years in the past.  The Obelisk is also making its way around the world.  We have readers in Australia, in China, in Ireland.  And with the increasing popularity of our email format, it’s impossible to know where in the world these pages might be read, as local survivors with family members in the Philippines or Pakistan or Mexico can, with the click of a mouse, instantly forward the Obelisk to those near and far.  We know that survivors everywhere are searching for information, inspiration, and most importantly, for hope.