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From the Desk of Father Rubey
Friday, April 20, 2018 by Father Ruby
In May our country celebrates Mother’s Day which is a day when we honor our Mothers who are still here and fondly remember those Mothers who are a part of the hereafter. For those Mothers who are grieving the death of a child from suicide or those children who are grieving the loss of a Mother from suicide this is an especially painful day.
Family Conflict after a Suicide Loss
Friday, April 20, 2018 by Cynthia Waderlow MSE, LCSW
Infighting and conflict after the death of a primary family member is a difficult but recognized manifestation of grief. Suicide grief, in particular, can take us down to base level, sometimes to our most primitive responses of blame and rage. These initial feelings are common, and often part of the changed world after suicide loss.

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Is My Child Grieving?
Monday, February 01, 2016 by Cynthia Waderlow MSE, LCSW
I often talk with new LOSS members who are parents with children at home. They are clearly reaching out for direction and support, still shell-shocked perhaps months later, but responding to a sense that they need to make sure their kids are okay. I may hear, “She doesn’t seem to be grieving. How can I tell?” These parents have no problem recognizing their own grief. Clearly, attending to each day is an effort. They struggle with emotional absence where their children are concerned. They are able to talk about the new imbalance in their physical and emotional systems. They describe “waves” of grief, in which they feel overwhelmed with grief and sadness. Their children and teens, on the other hand, appear to have shown only initial sadness, but life still engages them. They play video games, watch TV, do homework, see friends, yet the parent senses that their child has also been changed by the loss. So parents wonder if it is normal when their child appears unchanged.
From the Desk of Debbie Major
Monday, February 01, 2016 by Deborah R. Major, PhD, LCSW
From time to time I am invited to write for this column, most often when Father Rubey is away.  He has written this column every month for many years, and when I attend LOSS groups, often a group member will comment on how something they read in Father’s “From the desk of” column seemed to speak directly to their experience that week.  So it’s always a challenge to write here, knowing that readers are expecting words of wisdom and inspiration.  If you are reading this page, I know that you have either lost a loved one to suicide, or you are trying to help someone who has.  Our readership includes individuals and families that have lost a loved one quite recently, as well as those whose loss is many years in the past.  The Obelisk is also making its way around the world.  We have readers in Australia, in China, in Ireland.  And with the increasing popularity of our email format, it’s impossible to know where in the world these pages might be read, as local survivors with family members in the Philippines or Pakistan or Mexico can, with the click of a mouse, instantly forward the Obelisk to those near and far.  We know that survivors everywhere are searching for information, inspiration, and most importantly, for hope.