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Keeper of Memories
Wednesday, November 28, 2018 by Cynthia Waderlow MSE, LCSW
I’d like to extend some brief thoughts about family grief through the holidays. There is a lot written on the subject to be found on the internet and various bereavement books. No wonder, because holiday traditions have “normal” and “what we always do” baked into them. When a loved one central to the family has died from suicide, these days can be approached with perhaps too much hope that they will help us feel better, or only dread or confusion.
From the Desk of Father Rubey
Wednesday, June 13, 2018 by Father Ruby
Oftentimes I have heard from people surviving a death from suicide that their souls seem dead. This crushing blow has literally deadened one’s spirit. All around survivors the world goes on but for the survivor the world has come to a crashing halt. The world has stopped and unfortunately survivors cannot get off.

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From the desk of Deborah Major
Wednesday, July 12, 2017 by Deborah Major
When LOSS members first come to our support groups we sometimes hear them say, “I know I’ll never ‘get over’ this.” Or they might ask, “Does anyone ever ‘get over’ this?” We also hear these same worries from clients in individual counseling.
Father Loss: Girls and Grief
Wednesday, June 28, 2017 by Cynthia Waderlow MSE, LCSW
I’ve been reflecting on the collective body of children’s grief work from which I’ve been privileged to learn in our LOSS Program for Children and Youth. It has been over six years now. Young people stay to talk over varying lengths of time from weeks to months to years. There are so many intervening variables that affect the grief work of a young person, and also some tricky consequences of parental loss that I have become aware of as a result of watching the development of bereaved children and teens. Sometimes I like to share my impressions and questions. Girls seem to stay involved with expressive grief work longer than boys do. Maybe this is because I am a female therapist, or maybe it has something to do with the relational sensitivities that we associate more often with females even from a young age. Whatever the causal factors, today I am writing primarily about my experience with father bereaved girls, but it opens to broader questions about identity development for daughters who lose fathers and sons who lose mothers. Make no mistake, boys can be sensitive too, and certainly experience consequences of parental loss. I do see this, but it is fair to qualify that most of my impressions at this time stem from my counseling relationships with girls whose fathers have died from suicide. And father loss does stand out in the counseling program’s history because men die from suicide at a significantly greater rate than do women.