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From the Desk of Father Rubey
Friday, July 01, 2016 by Father Rubey
One of the great holidays in our country is the Fourth of July. We celebrate our independence from a tyrannical oppressor who has become over the years one of our staunchest Allies. It is a time of great celebration during the summer months. It is a time to give thanks for the courage of our Founding Fathers who had the futuristic vision of making our country a beacon of hope for people who want to live in freedom. It was originally founded for those seeking religious freedom but it evolved into a country that promoted various types of freedoms from all repressive actions. It creates an atmosphere of freedom of speech, freedom of movement and various other types of freedoms. As we look around the world we hear about people who are looking for new countries to settle in where they can be safe and free. People go through all types of journeys in order to be free and safe in a new country. Our country is a beacon of hope for the oppressed people of the world. As Americans celebrate the Fourth of July survivors can be comforted knowing that their loved ones have been freed from the ravages of the illness that had engulfed their lives and are now at peace and pain free.

In time and after a lot of work survivors can realize the fact that their loved ones are no longer struggling and have found peace. I read a book that highlighted six authors who all faced their own deaths. They used all types of interventions that would prolong their lives as they faced the prospects of death. They extended their lives through various medical procedures. I thought about many survivors whose loved ones fought long and hard with mental illness. I am of the opinion that these loved ones might not have wanted to die but they could no longer live with the pain from mental illness. The six authors that I read about all viewed death as something very permanent and forever but I am not sure that people who complete suicide view death as something permanent. I am not sure that they view their deaths as forever. What they do know is that the pain had become intolerable and they had to find relief somehow. Getting out of their pain was the main object of their actions. Did they think this through thoroughly? I don’t know, but they just knew that they had to exit this pain because they could no longer bear such unspeakable and excruciating pain. The pain was unrelenting and indescribable. They literally had come to the end of the line.

If these suffering souls had given thorough thought to their actions would they have taken their lives? Did they fully comprehend the excruciating pain that their suicide was going to cause to their loved ones? Categorically not. If they did realize this fact they would never done what they did. These people who complete suicide were loved and did love their families and friends. This love that was part of the lives of these tortured people could not penetrate to their souls. At the end all that these people experienced was the inexorable pain resulting from the illness that had engulfed their souls. There was no medication or psychotherapy that was going to give them relief or lessen their pain. Suicide was the only way out. Something drastic had to be done to bring this pain to an end. They were not thinking of all of the events that they were going to miss such as graduations, weddings, birthdays, anniversaries and all different events that families celebrate. Again, if they thought about missing these events they would have had second thoughts about doing what they did. The pain was the paramount and motivating force in their lives and this pain had to end and end now.

The six authors realized that their deaths were going to be forever and that is why they were going to prolong their lives as long as possible. They were going to use whatever means possible to make sure that they got as much out of life that was possible. They used the medical means that were available to get as much time as they could and to spend this time with loved ones. Many survivors may question why their loved ones didn’t try harder to find a treatment that worked but again we cannot understand the pain that they were in and we do not know how long they have struggled. It is important for survivors to realize the extent of the pain and the thought process that their loved ones went through in leading up to their final act. People who complete suicide think differently than those of us who do not complete suicide. Those of us who have not experienced the ravages of mental illness cannot realize or comprehend the pain that such illness can bring to humans. Words can never capture such pain. We can only imagine such pain. People who complete suicide are not cowards or weak or selfish. They are people whose lives have completely unraveled because of an illness. They did not cause this. They did not wish this. They became victims of an illness that eventually caused their deaths. Cancer can lead to death. Heart disease can lead to death. Mental illness can lead to death and in the instance of members of the LOSS Family the illness did lead to death. Survivors are not to blame nor are the people who complete suicide culpably to blame. The blame lies with the cause of death such as cancer, heart disease or mental illness. The lesson to be learned is to take care of ourselves and do what we can to live healthy lives and quit doing things that can endanger our health such as smoking, abusing alcohol, eating a lot of junk food and lack of exercise. If one finds that there is a lot of stress in life and that living has become a chore and thoughts of harming oneself has become part of the thought process then seek help for this by seeking professional help and or medication to take away such thoughts and desires. Suicide is never the answer to life’s stresses. As always, I want to assure all of the members of the LOSS Family of my thoughts and prayers regularly and I encourage members of our family to pray for each other and to remember those who have recently joined our family.

Keep On Keepin’ On,




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From the Desk of Father Rubey
Friday, July 01, 2016 by Father Rubey
One of the great holidays in our country is the Fourth of July. We celebrate our independence from a tyrannical oppressor who has become over the years one of our staunchest Allies. It is a time of great celebration during the summer months. It is a time to give thanks for the courage of our Founding Fathers who had the futuristic vision of making our country a beacon of hope for people who want to live in freedom. It was originally founded for those seeking religious freedom but it evolved into a country that promoted various types of freedoms from all repressive actions. It creates an atmosphere of freedom of speech, freedom of movement and various other types of freedoms. As we look around the world we hear about people who are looking for new countries to settle in where they can be safe and free. People go through all types of journeys in order to be free and safe in a new country. Our country is a beacon of hope for the oppressed people of the world. As Americans celebrate the Fourth of July survivors can be comforted knowing that their loved ones have been freed from the ravages of the illness that had engulfed their lives and are now at peace and pain free.

In time and after a lot of work survivors can realize the fact that their loved ones are no longer struggling and have found peace. I read a book that highlighted six authors who all faced their own deaths. They used all types of interventions that would prolong their lives as they faced the prospects of death. They extended their lives through various medical procedures. I thought about many survivors whose loved ones fought long and hard with mental illness. I am of the opinion that these loved ones might not have wanted to die but they could no longer live with the pain from mental illness. The six authors that I read about all viewed death as something very permanent and forever but I am not sure that people who complete suicide view death as something permanent. I am not sure that they view their deaths as forever. What they do know is that the pain had become intolerable and they had to find relief somehow. Getting out of their pain was the main object of their actions. Did they think this through thoroughly? I don’t know, but they just knew that they had to exit this pain because they could no longer bear such unspeakable and excruciating pain. The pain was unrelenting and indescribable. They literally had come to the end of the line.

If these suffering souls had given thorough thought to their actions would they have taken their lives? Did they fully comprehend the excruciating pain that their suicide was going to cause to their loved ones? Categorically not. If they did realize this fact they would never done what they did. These people who complete suicide were loved and did love their families and friends. This love that was part of the lives of these tortured people could not penetrate to their souls. At the end all that these people experienced was the inexorable pain resulting from the illness that had engulfed their souls. There was no medication or psychotherapy that was going to give them relief or lessen their pain. Suicide was the only way out. Something drastic had to be done to bring this pain to an end. They were not thinking of all of the events that they were going to miss such as graduations, weddings, birthdays, anniversaries and all different events that families celebrate. Again, if they thought about missing these events they would have had second thoughts about doing what they did. The pain was the paramount and motivating force in their lives and this pain had to end and end now.

The six authors realized that their deaths were going to be forever and that is why they were going to prolong their lives as long as possible. They were going to use whatever means possible to make sure that they got as much out of life that was possible. They used the medical means that were available to get as much time as they could and to spend this time with loved ones. Many survivors may question why their loved ones didn’t try harder to find a treatment that worked but again we cannot understand the pain that they were in and we do not know how long they have struggled. It is important for survivors to realize the extent of the pain and the thought process that their loved ones went through in leading up to their final act. People who complete suicide think differently than those of us who do not complete suicide. Those of us who have not experienced the ravages of mental illness cannot realize or comprehend the pain that such illness can bring to humans. Words can never capture such pain. We can only imagine such pain. People who complete suicide are not cowards or weak or selfish. They are people whose lives have completely unraveled because of an illness. They did not cause this. They did not wish this. They became victims of an illness that eventually caused their deaths. Cancer can lead to death. Heart disease can lead to death. Mental illness can lead to death and in the instance of members of the LOSS Family the illness did lead to death. Survivors are not to blame nor are the people who complete suicide culpably to blame. The blame lies with the cause of death such as cancer, heart disease or mental illness. The lesson to be learned is to take care of ourselves and do what we can to live healthy lives and quit doing things that can endanger our health such as smoking, abusing alcohol, eating a lot of junk food and lack of exercise. If one finds that there is a lot of stress in life and that living has become a chore and thoughts of harming oneself has become part of the thought process then seek help for this by seeking professional help and or medication to take away such thoughts and desires. Suicide is never the answer to life’s stresses. As always, I want to assure all of the members of the LOSS Family of my thoughts and prayers regularly and I encourage members of our family to pray for each other and to remember those who have recently joined our family.

Keep On Keepin’ On,